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The act of forgiveness is not about the offender.
Forgiveness is a controversial subject to some and for others there is no controversy at all, the act is as natural as breathing. For some, the thought of forgiveness or forgiving just does not settle well and is not considered to be part of everyday life for common man. For others, forgiveness, whether easy or difficult, is a necessary and achievable response to self-suffering due to detrimental acts. Some find balance in their lives from the practice of forgiveness while others find solace only in their antipathy.

Let’s take this concept of forgiveness one step further, unconditional forgiveness.

What exactly is unconditional forgiveness?
Most people understand the concept of unconditional love when it comes to their children or their faith. Consider for a moment, unconditional forgiveness. Unconditional forgiveness is simply the act of forgiveness without conditions. The most common conditions set upon the act of forgiveness are; admission of guilt, remorse, ceasing further harm, making amends, recompense, punishment, saying, “I am sorry”, and the asking of forgiveness. So, imagine forgiveness when no conditions are present. For some, unconditional forgiveness can not and should not exist. For others it is the only way forgiveness is given. Stop sometime for five minutes and contemplate the concept, or meditate on the thought of unconditional forgiveness; forgiveness without conditions.

Let’s speculate that we have the entire concept of forgiveness all wrong.
If you believe that forgiveness is about the offender, for the sake of the moment,
let’s speculate that we have the entire concept of forgiveness all wrong.
A definition of forgiveness is; the process of concluding resentment, indignation or anger as a result of a perceived offense, difference or mistake, and/or ceasing to demand punishment or restitution. If you believe and accept this as the complete meaning of forgiveness, then believe there is no aspect of forgiveness that releases the offender from the act.
The act of forgiveness is not about the offender. Forgiveness is about releasing the connection between one’s self, the offender, and the event. Through the act of forgiveness the harmful effects of the event-connection will no longer exist for the emotional host.

Don’t mistake forgiveness with amnesty or reconciliation.
Forgiveness is about the well-being, mental and physical health, and everlasting compassion of the person who has been hurt.

What is the process of forgiveness?
1. Understand and feel comfortable with knowing that forgiveness is not about the offender
and does not condone the hurtful act.
2. Conclude your resentment of the offender and of the act.
3. Conclude your indignation and anger toward the offender and the act.
4. Cease the desire or demand for punishment and, or restitution.
Achieving these 4 points will release a great amount of bound negative energy and you will feel lighter, more free and more compassionate.
If you are ready to go to the next level;
5. Wish the offender loving kindness.
6. Wish the offender a happy, healthy, life.
Wish these from your heart, not from your mouth. You do not need to tell
anyone, including the offender. Forgiveness is about you.